“The concept of two people living together for 25 years without a serious dispute suggests a lack of spirit only to be admired in sheep.” ~ A.P. Herbert
Pete and I only dated for a few months before we knew we wanted to get married. At the time of our wedding, we hadn’t yet known each other a year. So there wasn’t much time to get into any significant arguments. I don’t even think we’d argued about parking spaces or asking for directions.
The first time we had a real argument–I believe it was on our honeymoon–I was horrified. I don’t think I had consciously thought that we were never going to argue, I just hadn’t prepared for it. I told Pete that I would never talk to him that way again.
Fourteen and a half years later, I can’t remember what that argument was about. I do know it wasn’t our last. Nor was it our most heated.
To be clear, I’m pretty sure we don’t argue any more often than other couples. And we certainly don’t take arguments lightly. But we do take them in stride.
We’re different people. We’re never going to agree on every little thing. The differences that make things interesting sometimes lead to friction. And if we were so like each other that we didn’t ever have a disagreement, I think I’d be bored to tears.