Please note: This post is entirely my opinion, not based on any studies or statistics whatsoever. Feel free to disagree and to tell me so. Also, I am only addressing unbiblical divorces–not those caused by adultery or unbelief.
1. Some churches prescribe the Christian life as a road to happiness. That is thoroughly unbiblical. The most obvious examples that would refute that teaching are the disciples and apostles themselves, who were ostracized, tortured, and killed because of their faith. Besides being false on its face, this teaching is dangerous. If people believe that God’s main interest in their lives is to make them happy, they will be confused by the struggles and temptations and pain that life actually presents. This, in turn, leads people to evaluate their lives and try to determine what part of it is causing this unexpected pain–pain which, they’ve been taught, cannot possibly be ordained nor endorsed by God. After all, He wants them to be happy. Frequently, a main source of struggle is the marriage relationship. It’s not easy, even if you’re with your soul mate, to live day-t0-day with another person who is fundamentally different, who might be moody, cranky, selfish, unaffectionate, or sloppy. These misled people will then find it rather easy to believe that God would rather they leave this unhappy marriage than continue in their unhappiness.
2. Largely because of the faulty assumptions in reason #1, Christians often do not feel free to share their struggles with each other. If unhappiness is not our God-ordained state, why would we admit that unhappiness to our fellow churchgoers? And if we don’t share our burdens, we can’t fulfill the command of Galatians 6:2 – “Bear one another’s burdens, and so fulfill the law of Christ.” This leaves failing marriages with no support system, and nowhere to go but to the divorce court.
And that’s the way I see it. What about you?